life

Three

To my parents,

You’ve been there since day one, as life coaches and personal cheerleaders. I just want to say thank you and sorry.

Thank you for everything you’ve done for me. For supporting my dreams, no matter how silly. For constantly encouraging me to conquer obstacles that I always thought we’re impossible. For raising me to be the woman I am today. Thank you. Sorry for being difficult. For disobeying you when I didn’t get my way. For saying hurtful things that I didn’t mean. Sorry.

I think sometimes I neglect telling you how much I appreciate you. It know that at times it doesn’t seem like it, especially since college has started. I have been so busy that I sometimes forget to call, but I love and appreciate you guys more than words can express.

Mom. Thank you for teaching me selflessness. You always put others before yourself. I remember you always making sure everyone was happy before you tended to yourself. I admire you for that. Thank you for teaching me my ABCs and 123s and reading books about how to make your child a genius. Thank you for being strict. For limiting my TV time and making sure I practice piano every morning for an hour before school. Thank you for teaching me how to be independent. For teaching my how to wash clothes so I don’t shrink all of them in the wash and for teaching me how to cook so I don’t starve in college. You are the most beautiful woman in the world and I aspire to become you one day.

Dad. Thank you for teaching me hardwork. For making me clean my room everyday, for making me do work in the garden, for telling me to keep trying. You have taught me that hard work pays off and that I should never put a cap on my capabilities. Thank you for teaching my how to ride a bike and how to drive a motorcycle. You have taught me to keep trying even if I get a few cuts and bruises. Thank you for yelling at me, because you always seem to know when I need it the most.

Mom and dad, I strive to have a relationship like yours. A relationship always has ups and downs and yet you guys have rode it like a rollercoaster. Taking each day like a new adventure. As individuals you are strong but together you are unbreakable. Your love is natural and comes so easily and I cannot help but be impatient for the time that I will have something like that. You both have taught be so much about the importance of love and family and I will forever keep these things close to my heart.

Thank you for filling everyday with love. I am so privileged to have the both of you in my life. You have provided me with the best life possible and I hope that you are proud of how I have turned out.

 

I love you both so much,

Your little girl

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College 101: Dating

Love. The word gets thrown around so easily in this day and age that at times, the word has lost a lot of the meaning it once held. However, that doesn’t mean that love doesn’t exist, it’s still there, like a needle in a haystack. All you have to do is be patient.

As a college student, I can’t pretend that I have vast experiences in love. But I do have enough to be able to compile a list of 10 things I knew about love. So here it is.

1. Don’t limit yourself

Growing up, everyone always seems to thing that they have to find ‘the one’. But from my point of view, you can’t limit your experiences to just ‘the one’.

You’ll kiss a lot of people, make a lot of mistakes, have your heart broken and break someone else’s but this is all a learning process. You will learn more about yourself, what you want and what you need.

 

2. Lust or Love?

Make sure you know the difference. Catching the eye of a hot person from across the room is like an adrenaline high like no other. But remember that attraction is deceptive. It can make you impulsive and cloud your judgment.

Lust is in the moment. Love is forever. Differentiate between the two, or it could be your undoing.

 

3. Blocking/Unfollowing exists for a reason

Breaking up is hard. Its a slow, gruelling process and that is why unfriending/unfollowing/blocking people exist. Removing people from your life isn’t immature

 

4. Listen to your family and friends

I cannot stress this enough. Your family and friends love you and just want the best for you. You won’t be able to see the disaster in front of  you when you’re being blinded by your infatuation. They shouldn’t dictate who you date, but you should take their opinions into account

 

5. Trust your instincts

You have instinct for a reason. Okay, so maybe our instincts weren’t specifically developed to pick out jerks from potential interests but they are pretty accurate. If someone gives you weird vibes (i.e makes your uncomfortable/scared) that is your instincts giving you the red flag, so you should probably leave ASAP.

 

6. Be yourself

Do not allow someone to change your personality to suit them and their needs. If they tell you to tone down certain aspects of your personality, tell them to bounce. If they ask you to wear more makeup, tell them to bounce. If they ask you to change the way you dress, tell them to bounce.

Unless a person likes you for who you are, they are not worth your time.

 

7. Dating isn’t everything

Remember that your life doesn’t revolve around dating/looking for someone to date. You have family and friends who will always be there for you, so don’t take their support for granted.

You also have education to pursue, remember that the reason you’re in college isn’t to find your Prince Charming.

 

XOXO B

 

2016

As another year passes I think about all the things I didn’t achieve in the past year and I put all these things in the list of things I want to achieve this year.

Same routine every year.

As someone who doesn’t like change, I have compiled another list. But this year, I feel it. I feel the need to change and this year, might be the year that I actually have positive changes in my life. So here is a list of all the things I want to change in 2016.

 

1. Be more adventurous. I’m a relatively quiet person. Unless you know me very well or I’m pretty drunk (which rarely happens). This year I want to step out of my comfort zone. Try out new things, travel to new places all that jazz.

2. Enjoy life. Sounds stupid, but with a phone that lets me do anything, all the time sometimes it’s hard to just enjoy the world around me rather than entertaining myself with images on a screen. I want to spend more time with family and friends and just enjoy everything life has to offer

3. Be healthy. 2015 was not a year of health. With exams and starting university health was the least of my worries. I was trying to cope with high stress levels as well as cooking somewhat edible food. That time has now passed and I think it’s time for me to eat healthier and exercise more.

4. Learn a new language. If there is one thing school didn’t teach me, it was the importance of learning a language. I literally only studied languages because it was compulsory. Now I realize how useful they can be.

 

I honestly have a much longer list than this but it is way too long to mention every single thing so I will end here. I hope everyone had a lovely New Years and I hope that 2016 is everything you wish for it to be.

 

XOXO -A

Dear Future Self,

Hey, whats up broski.

Guess what your past self is currently up to? Absolutely nothing that’s what. And that’s what I want to tell you don’t become like me, don’t stay this way. Doing nothing is not going to take you anywhere in life. So please, if you’re reading this, you’re most likely procrastinating so stop. Go do something productive.

I’ve noticed something about us. We have these big ambitions and dreams. We want to learn new things and we want to experience the world but somehow we always back out. We seem to have this mindset that “We can’t do it” and we think up a million and one excuses on why we can’t do it. Well guess what? You can. And you will. All you have to do is put your mind to it. Make a game plan and then follow it. You may fail a couple of times but you know what that’s okay. Everyone fails. What differentiates the successes from the failures is the ability for you to pick yourself up each time. Perseverance is the key.

No matter what you think of yourself, you are better than you think you are.

So future self, go forth and do what you want to do. And when you need some motivation re-read this post. Hopefully it’ll give you the motivation you need.