Love. The word gets thrown around so easily in this day and age that at times, the word has lost a lot of the meaning it once held. However, that doesn’t mean that love doesn’t exist, it’s still there, like a needle in a haystack. All you have to do is be patient.
As a college student, I can’t pretend that I have vast experiences in love. But I do have enough to be able to compile a list of 10 things I knew about love. So here it is.
1. Don’t limit yourself
Growing up, everyone always seems to thing that they have to find ‘the one’. But from my point of view, you can’t limit your experiences to just ‘the one’.
You’ll kiss a lot of people, make a lot of mistakes, have your heart broken and break someone else’s but this is all a learning process. You will learn more about yourself, what you want and what you need.
2. Lust or Love?
Make sure you know the difference. Catching the eye of a hot person from across the room is like an adrenaline high like no other. But remember that attraction is deceptive. It can make you impulsive and cloud your judgment.
Lust is in the moment. Love is forever. Differentiate between the two, or it could be your undoing.
3. Blocking/Unfollowing exists for a reason
Breaking up is hard. Its a slow, gruelling process and that is why unfriending/unfollowing/blocking people exist. Removing people from your life isn’t immature
4. Listen to your family and friends
I cannot stress this enough. Your family and friends love you and just want the best for you. You won’t be able to see the disaster in front of you when you’re being blinded by your infatuation. They shouldn’t dictate who you date, but you should take their opinions into account
5. Trust your instincts
You have instinct for a reason. Okay, so maybe our instincts weren’t specifically developed to pick out jerks from potential interests but they are pretty accurate. If someone gives you weird vibes (i.e makes your uncomfortable/scared) that is your instincts giving you the red flag, so you should probably leave ASAP.
6. Be yourself
Do not allow someone to change your personality to suit them and their needs. If they tell you to tone down certain aspects of your personality, tell them to bounce. If they ask you to wear more makeup, tell them to bounce. If they ask you to change the way you dress, tell them to bounce.
Unless a person likes you for who you are, they are not worth your time.
7. Dating isn’t everything
Remember that your life doesn’t revolve around dating/looking for someone to date. You have family and friends who will always be there for you, so don’t take their support for granted.
You also have education to pursue, remember that the reason you’re in college isn’t to find your Prince Charming.